You Ask; I Answer Part 1

So, I've had a bit of writers block lately. Is that even possible to have writer's block when you are writing your live story? lol. Well anyway I asked my FB friends to ask me any question that wanted and I would attempt to write a blog post about it to possible get my creative juices flowing.

So here is one of the questions I was asked.

"Who do u think loses out more? Girls who grow up without fathers? Or boys who grow up w out fathers? I've heard conflicting opinions. Or is that too deep a topic?"

I'll start by answering the easiest question first. No, it's not "too deep a topic". In fact, I find it easier to write about things rather that talking about them. :)

I can only really speak from my point of view on this, even though I know guys whose fathers were around. I think when guys grow up and have families of their own; they have the opportunity to put an end to the cycle. I honestly think that girls lose out more.

There are a lot of little event and big events that occur in a girl’s life that she'll miss out on if her dad isn't around. Although I've had my grandfather for the early part of my life. He was my grandfather and father at most times but there was always a nagging question in the back of my head, "who is my father and what would it be like if he were around?" Daddy/daughter tea at school/ lunch/dances/ Girl Scout events. All of those I had to miss out on because one my grandfather wasn't able to take me or 2 and this was the case for most of them; part of me was kind of embarrassed to have my grandfather do these things with me. After all it wasn't his responsibility. He didn't help make me.

All of that stuff didn't really matter to me growing up. It wasn't until I was older, when life started really happening and my grandfather passed where I began to think, "Well I don't have a dad/father who is going to be there for certain life events." There are 3 main events in life (in my opinion) that we won't get to truly experience because our fathers aren't around. Graduation (if you graduate), your wedding day, and when you become a parent. There are other's I'm sure but these are the ones that mean the most to me.

We also have the boyfriend who comes into the picture and wants to pretend to be daddy. "Oh call me daddy." Ummm, no thank you, that is just wrong. People are creepy well my experience with them...they are creepy and I will never understand why anyone would want to take on someone else's responsibility of taking care/supporting some other man's kid. I don't understand how a guy can sit back and have another man take care of what is theirs.

The first "role model" of a man that girls get a vision of is their father. If they don't have that solid figure, how are they going to know what to look for in a man?

In the end, I think that girls have it harder and lose out when their fathers aren't involved.

Hope that answers it.

keep the questions coming because this it fun.


xoxo
Betty

First Post of the New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

 

I hope everyone's Christmas and New year were magical. For my Christmas I worked. Story of my life. I actually took off for New Years. WOW! Who would have thought? We, Billy and I, spent New Years with Shealyn's God-mom. I was having a good time until we went around the table and with "Good and Bad of 2012". How to I not sound angry or bitter when I answer this? I came up with some stupid stuff. Bad-- saying good-bye to my grandfather's sister. RIP Aunt Helen. And good-
spending my bday in Seaside with Danielle, Sarah and my sister. Oh and getting my tattoo and deciding to writer a book. If only I'll actually finish what I start. What i really wanted to say was the last 6 months of 2012 was bad and that nothing really good happened. Yeah I have a Job and house and I'm grateful for all of that But my biggest issue is I want to BE HAPPY AGAIN. And when I picture me being happy again and a picture that was taken of me on my wedding, very candid, smiling ear to ear. Not a care in the world. I'd given anything to be back at that moment. Before everything when to shit. Will I ever be happy like that again? I found an old journal the other day. I really think TTC destroyed us.

 

Well onto my New Year's Resolutions. IDK why I even do these. I NEVER stick to them.

1. Finish at least 1 of my 2 book/short story ideas.
2. (I saw this on face-book) Write a good thing that hap pend to me a day and put it in a jar. At the end of the year I will go back and read. This will be a reminder to look for all the good things in life.
3. (on my list every year) To loose weight. I would like to be a size 9 but realistically I would settle for a size 10-12.
4. Work out more or do yoga every day.

That's all I could think of for right now. My Ultimate goal is to find me. The true me. The happy me.